Mar 12

Written by: Ben Snyder
3/12/2008 3:20 PM

I took our car to Caress Carwash over by my house because I don't have time to hand wash the thing - plus, the car wash does a nice cleaning job and it sprays fun colored soap on my car. So, decided to take Lydia through in our car thinking it would be like the circus. Singing, laughing, thrilled shreaks of joy...

Instead of the expected giggles, pointing, and excitment - it was wide-eyed terror that turned to frantic screaming.  Suddenly I felt trapped. What once as a colorful and fun spray and spin cycle turned into guns blasting the car and a big multi-armed monster enveloping our car. Lydia was having a melt down.  Even as we sat there in the endless car wash, I grabbed her hand and told her it was okay - Daddy was here.  It didn't help.

What felt like three hours later - the door opened and we finally escaped. 

It took fifteen minutes to calm her. Whew.

What is ironic is the other day I found her on climbing step number three in our basement (since we have put up a little barrier to keep this from happening again).  She had climbed up there all by herself...no help, no fear.  I pulled her down and was momenterally terrified of the potential devistation that could have happend had she fallen.  As soon as her feet hit the floor - she went right back to those steps and started climbing.  I tried to put my hands around her to hold her - and with the arogance of a one year old she pushed my hands away.  So, I snatched her up and carried her to safety where she proceeded to inform our entire neighborhood that she wasn't happy with that move.

After the car was episode I started thinking about what makes us afraid - and what should makes us afraid. 

In the car wash - there was nothing that could hurt her.  Yet, from her perspective - even with Daddy there trying to calm her - she was terrorized.  And on the stairs, one mis-step (which is common for her) and she would have fallen to serious injury.  In the car wash, I was amazed at the ridiculousness of Lydia's fear.  She was terrorized by the car wash which could do nothing to harm her, but unafraid of choices that could lead to real pain and injury. In both cases, when I got involved - it didn't help.  In the car wash, my reaching out to comfort her was not enough to end her fear...and when I stepped in to help keep her from harm - she pushed me away and eventually was upset by my care and protection.

It is so true how watching your kids teaches you so much about life.  So many times in my life I am terrorized by things that I need not worry about.  And so often in those times of fear and worry, God is desperately trying to get my attention to remind me who He is and how much He cares.  On the other hand, sometimes I make risky choices that with one misstep could cause injury. And when God steps in to help keep me from harm - I "push him away" or even get upset because I am not getting what I want.

So, what have you been "afraid of" lately? How might God our Father be trying to calm and care for you?
What choices have you been making that should make you a little "afraid"?
Or perhaps, have you been paying attention to how God might be trying to warn you about some of the choices you are making?

 

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5 comments so far...

Re: Trip to the CarWash

I have been afraid of demons lately. I saw the Exorcist (bad choice!), I know that is so unrealistic, but It still scres me so bad, bu I think the comfort i get from God is by reading Psalm 91, my favorite thing to read inthe bible. I'm thirteen and have probably been reading that verse since i could read, i would go into my mom's room and she would tell me to read that, and it always gies me comfort and peace, that's when i really feel God, and no fear. But soemtimes it's so hard not to think about my fears, I need to work on that.

By kelly94 on   10/3/2007 12:36 PM

Re: Trip to the CarWash

I used to be afraid of the car wash when I was little :)

By kelly94 on   10/3/2007 12:36 PM

Re: Trip to the CarWash

Hi Ben,
My daughter Gracie (2 years old and one of Lauren's "buddies" in Wee Ventures) LOVES the car wash! She giggles every time we go through one. Maybe Lydia will feel differently as she gets a little older! :o)

About being terrorized about things you shouldn't be...I used to be like that...ALOT. As I grow in my faith and as I understand that sweating the small stuff is such a waste of time the less I feel terrorized about the little stuff. Of course, it's soooooo easy to fall back into sweating the small stuff. My husband is very good at gently reminding me to stop doing it when I slip back into it.
:o)
My parents sweat the small stuff all the time and I'm pretty sure that's where I get that trait from. Please pray for my parents. They are not Christians and I struggle with how to talk to them about it. I've brought it up in the past and they always tell me they don't want to come to church. Please pray that God presents another opportunity for me to talk to them about Jesus and about coming to church.
Thanks! Have a great week!
-Beth

By Beth on   10/10/2007 3:36 PM

Re: Trip to the CarWash

Beth,
Seeing loved ones who don't know Jesus is tough. I will pray that God awakens their heart to himself and his love. Keep loving, keep sharing, keep following Jesus - and keep believing that God can rescue them.
Thanks for the post.

By ben on   10/10/2007 3:39 PM

Re: Trip to the CarWash

Good stuff Ben. Same for the post Lauren did about the block party. I'm finding myself staring at new babies and asking questions of parents and for the first time really caring about the answers. I can't wait to begin growing as a parent and gaining a new perspective on God's love through that process.
Let's try and get a run in sometime soon. I'm eager to do more than 6 really soon.

By Michael D. on   4/2/2008 10:16 AM

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